Wednesday, August 13, 2008

What's beautiful in a woman...

Very recently, I was asked by the State Exco to be one of the 3 speakers at the Luncheon Talk in Stadium Malawati in Shah Alam for the Karnival Wanita Anggun. Sharing the stage with me was the Member of Parliament for Kuantan Fuziah Salleh and Dr. Irene Fernandez (an epitome of strength and courage).
With State Exco Rodziah, Dr Irene, MP for Kuantan Fuziah, Puan Sri Salbiah (wife of Menteri Besar Selangor) and State assemblyman for Rawang Gan Pei Nei.

We had to address the topic of "Wanita Sejati Anggun Peribadi". I spoke of what's beautiful in a woman and the importance of mothers and wives in our society today. Many people look to public figures as women of great strength but I personally think the housewives at home play a huge role in nation building. Without them, a house would not be a home. I learned about patience, respect and submission from my mom. Submission is not a sign of weakness, it is strength. My mom still calls me very frequently checking if I want lunch or dinner. I would have to multitask a thousand times more if not for my mom.

I also encouraged the young women not to bow down to pressure, not to succumb to the notion that "slim is beautiful". I shared my experience of my teenage days to them. I was once fairly huge in size (putting on 10kgs in one month) and went into depression after being constantly teased and laughed at by my friends. I gained so much weight, one friend thought I was pregnant. I shunned meeting people. I only ate tasteless canned vegetables in my effort to lose weight.
My belief in God took me out of that hopeless state of mind I was in. Today, though I'm still careful with the food I eat, I encouraged the ladies to work on building character rather than physical beauty. Young girls, if you're reading this - I want you to learn from my mistake, do not torture yourself by starving just to be thin. Good health is priceless. Learn to accept yourself, know that you're loved by your Creator and then with that knowledge, confidence will come. As the state assemblyman, I want to be active in educating and encouraging our young people not to bow down to peer pressure and end up in destructive habits and lifestyle. Be yourself. You can't change the way people view you but you can change the way you see yourself. My heart goes out to women who think they're not beautiful, those who live feeling rejected by husbands, peers and the public. If you need a support group, please email me.

By the way, I'm not cute (as portrayed by the media). I rather be known as one who has a good heart and a beautiful mind.

9 comments:

joe said...

Good Day YB,

"Wanita yang cantik tanpa peribadi yang mulia ,umpama kaca mata yang bersinar-bersinar,
tetapi tidak melihat apa-apa"

carcoon

Anonymous said...

You are OBVIOUSLY not cute. Kudos for admitting that yourself!

Kiwi said...

YB Hannah..

U r the most complete ADUN in Msia...
Pretty,Sincere,Sweet, & Honest are part of ur attributes...Admire you so much..Hope u can bcome the Exco of Selangor State Government soon....

Hidup Hannah Yeoh !!!

Anonymous said...

You the best la .....

Keep up the good work!

leo said...

brava!

i believe beauty is an all encompassing adjective - to deserve the word, one has to be beautiful, both inside and out...

:)

Chen Shin said...

Dear YB,
You are the most pretty YB i have seen. All the best. Perhaps you could become the exco of SSG soon. Go YB!!!

temenggong said...

Hannay,

You do good work.

But I am sorry to say you look like a schoolgirl, a prefect. And you husband look like a schoolboy too.

:)

OMGGosh said...

YB Hannah

A Person's Inner Beauty is the most precious . No money can buy it. It is a Gift from our creator.

Be Positive in Life.Never give up Hope.

Anonymous said...

We the Rakyat, should evaluate and determine the kind of Leaders we want for our beloved country, Malaysia


Here are the Top 10 Qualities of a Good Leader

By David Hakala


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Leadership can be defined as one's ability to get others to willingly follow. Every organization needs leaders at every level. Leaders can be found and nurtured if you look for the following character traits:

A leader with vision has a clear, vivid picture of where to go, as well as a firm grasp on what success looks like and how to achieve it. But it’s not enough to have a vision; leaders must also share it and act upon it. Jack Welch, former chairman and CEO of General Electric Co., said, "Good leaders create a vision, articulate the vision, passionately own the vision and relentlessly drive it to completion."

A leader must be able to communicate his or her vision in terms that cause followers to buy into it. He or she must communicate clearly and passionately, as passion is contagious.

A good leader must have the discipline to work toward his or her vision single-mindedly, as well as to direct his or her actions and those of the team toward the goal. Action is the mark of a leader. A leader does not suffer “analysis paralysis” but is always doing something in pursuit of the vision, inspiring others to do the same.

Integrity is the integration of outward actions and inner values. A person of integrity is the same on the outside and on the inside. Such an individual can be trusted because he or she never veers from inner values, even when it might be expeditious to do so. A leader must have the trust of followers and therefore must display integrity.

Honest dealings, predictable reactions, well-controlled emotions, and an absence of tantrums and harsh outbursts are all signs of integrity. A leader who is centered in integrity will be more approachable by followers.

Dedication means spending whatever time or energy is necessary to accomplish the task at hand. A leader inspires dedication by example, doing whatever it takes to complete the next step toward the vision. By setting an excellent example, leaders can show followers that there are no nine-to-five jobs on the team, only opportunities to achieve something great.

Magnanimity means giving credit where it is due. A magnanimous leader ensures that credit for successes is spread as widely as possible throughout the organization. Conversely, a good leader takes personal responsibility for failures. This sort of reverse magnanimity helps other people feel good about themselves and draws the team closer together. To spread the fame and take the blame is a hallmark of effective leadership.

Leaders with humility recognize that they are no better or worse than other members of the team. A humble leader is not self-effacing but rather tries to elevate everyone. Leaders with humility also understand that their status does not make them a god. Mahatma Gandhi is a role model for Indian leaders, and he pursued a “follower-centric” leadership role.

Openness means being able to listen to new ideas, even if they do not conform to the usual way of thinking. Good leaders are able to suspend judgment while listening to others’ ideas, as well as accept new ways of doing things that someone else thought of. Openness builds mutual respect and trust between leaders and followers, and it also keeps the team well supplied with new ideas that can further its vision.

Creativity is the ability to think differently, to get outside of the box that constrains solutions. Creativity gives leaders the ability to see things that others have not seen and thus lead followers in new directions. The most important question that a leader can ask is, “What if … ?” Possibly the worst thing a leader can say is, “I know this is a dumb question ... ”

Fairness means dealing with others consistently and justly. A leader must check all the facts and hear everyone out before passing judgment. He or she must avoid leaping to conclusions based on incomplete evidence. When people feel they that are being treated fairly, they reward a leader with loyalty and dedication.

Assertiveness is not the same as aggressiveness. Rather, it is the ability to clearly state what one expects so that there will be no misunderstandings. A leader must be assertive to get the desired results. Along with assertiveness comes the responsibility to clearly understand what followers expect from their leader.

Many leaders have difficulty striking the right amount of assertiveness, according to a study in the February 2007 issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, published by the APA (American Psychological Association). It seems that being underassertive or overassertive may be the most common weakness among aspiring leaders.

A sense of humor is vital to relieve tension and boredom, as well as to defuse hostility. Effective leaders know how to use humor to energize followers. Humor is a form of power that provides some control over the work environment. And simply put, humor fosters good camaraderie.

Intrinsic traits such as intelligence, good looks, height and so on are not necessary to become a leader. Anyone can cultivate these leadership qualities.


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