Wednesday, July 22, 2009

He will never be forgotten...

I'm going to share a personal story with all of you here. Back in 1990, when I was still in school, I received news that my favourite uncle (mom's brother) had injured himself from a fall while working. He was admitted to SJMC and hours later, he passed away. My uncle was only 29 when he left us. He was one month away from getting married. He had personally renovated his house and bought new furniture in anticipation of his wedding day. I was told that he cried when his engagement ring was removed from his finger, moments before he passed away.

On the day of his burial, his pre-wedding photographs taken at the studio were delivered to us. His fiancee wept uncontrollably. Their wedding did not materialise. Their dream of beginning their lives together was shattered. Photograph of him in his groom tuxedo adorned his coffin and hearse. His parents (my grandparents) also could not participate in the funeral, just like Beng Hock's parents. According to Chinese culture, the parents should not participate in the funeral of a child.

I can understand how Beng Hock's nieces and nephews feel. I spent so many nights crying, longing for my favourite uncle to return. I can imagine the atmosphere in Beng Hock's home now. My grandparents' home was no different. One night, I shared the room with my uncle's fiancee. I woke up to the sound of her weeping. She told me how my uncle wanted me to teach him English and that it was too late. How she was supposed to prepare soup for him for dinner but he never came home that day, it was too late.

Year after year, at every family gathering, I witnessed my grandmother crying. I saw my grandfather hiding in the kitchen, crying by himself. The loss of their son was too painful, too much for them to bear. Even on the dying bed in 2007, my grandfather was still thinking of his son - my uncle who left so prematurely at the age of 29, a month before his scheduled wedding.

Beng Hock's death has brought painful remembrance of my personal loss. Beng Hock was my friend. I last saw him in the Dewan Annex at the Selangor State Assembly last Wednesday during our lunch break. I never imagined that that would be the last time we chatted. I am 30 years old. Beng Hock was 30 too. He would not be at MACC if he hadn't accepted the call of public service. This race in which I have started to run to bring change in this land is not an easy one. I know some will stop running. Some may be injured running the race. I pray I will complete the race.

My sister who is indifferent to politics (like many other young people in this country) sent me a text message when I was at Nirvana Memorial Park in Semenyih the day Beng Hock was buried. She said : "Please teach me what to do in the event you are taken in by MACC too. I do not want to learn of it too late". She must have seen the agony of Beng Hock's siblings and realised that it could have been her going through it.

I hope my grandmother isn't watching the news of Beng Hock's death. She would be grieving and crying seeing Beng Hock's mom. I hope this article doesn't reach her. Just like how my family still remembers my late uncle some 19 years later, I know Beng Hock too would be remembered many years to come. Farewell, my friend.

35 comments:

Anonymous said...

My deepest condolences to Beng Hock's family.

According to Chinese customs, parents should not bury their children. For it is their children who should bury their parents.

The young who should send-off the old and never the other way around.
So when the young dies prematurely it is always a heartache to the parents who care and raise them all those years hoping that someday when they die, their children will be the ones to send them off and carry on the family.

Gan said...

I can feel Beng Hock's family pain.

A life so cruelly taken because of his calling in life - to serve the people.

It's a hell of a price to pay.

I am sure you, Hannah and the rest of the people in PR must be shaken to the core.

I am sure it might also work, which is what the evil forces hope for - some of you might be so shaken and traumatised that you will also quit this quest to seek social justice for a better Malaysia.

I and the rakyat will understand.

In the meantime, I will pray that all good man will band together to get rid of this evil force.

God bless

Chris CK said...

"When bad men combine, the good must associate; else they will fall, one by one, an unpitied sacrifice in a contemptible struggle"

:- Edmund Burke

People of Malaysia, you have seen the sacrifices selfless people have done to create a future for your children. If you do not wake up from the slumber of ignorance, we will fall one by one and Beng Hock's death would be in vain. Please, I implore you ...fellow Malaysians.

Richard said...

Ever since my dear dad's passing, I seemed to have lost my fear of death. Coz when I die I will go to be with him again.

u9 said...

Always make sure that at least one person is near or with you during such interview or interrogation. Just tell your investigators that you have someone outside waiting for you. This is the second time PR left someone alone without caution or attention. It might be good to invest in a GPS tracking device since you can be taken into custody without anyone knowledge.

Anonymous said...

Please support & protect our ADUNs & MPs. They are fighting for us, but who fights for them?

Who stands up for them when they are framed by MACC, PDRM & god knows what other dogs of the gov?

No loved one deserves to face such pain of losing their family just because they wish to make Malaysia a better place to live in.

If anyone takes anymore of our ADUNs & MPs, we shall all camp overnight & vigil until their release. Everytime someone is taken, we make vigils. We create pressure on the dogs of BN.

nat said...

"I am 30 years old. Beng Hock was 30 too. He would not be at MACC if he hadn't accepted the call of public service. This race in which I have started to run to bring change in this land is not an easy one. I know some will stop running. Some may be injured running the race. I pray I will complete the race."

Now: "For the time will come when men will not put up with sound doctrine. Instead, to suit their own desires, they will gather around them a great number of teachers to say what their itching ears want to hear. They will turn their ears away from the truth and turn aside to myths. But you, keep your head in all situations, endure hardship, do the work of an evangelist, discharge all the duties of your ministry."

One day: "For I am already being poured out like a drink offering, and the time has come for my departure. I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith."

Kj's supporter said...

Hannah,

Im really sorry about your uncle. Keep on fighting the good fight.

yapsir said...

Dear Hannah,

Just letting you know,the Love Subang Chinese/English P Fellowship pray for you and your family very often.
You are not alone.
I am silently in the fore-front too.
The are pains in the lost of loved one.
But it would greater pain me ,if no one cares enough to stand up for Justice,Righteousness,Fairness.
Thank you,keep up the good work.
you have a many good people behind you,and beside you.
yapsir(Henry Yap)

Anonymous said...

Hannah,
Sadly, it needs Beng Hock's young life to be sacrificed in order for a better Malaysia and it's people like you who also had to endure the fight for every Malaysian. For that I thank you & all those in the Oppositions. To Beng Hock, TRUTH SETS US FREE!

Carol said...

Just have confidence in God dear gal.......He Is A LIVING GOD..........always remember that. Leaders who are appointed BY God under go difficult times.....that is a biblical fact........but nothing can match the brilliant result. We need hardship........it makes us more human & loveable.
Keep up fighting for the glory of OUR LORD.

Anonymous said...

Dear Hannah, this, in my opinion, is a little bit unnecessary. Your uncle passed away at a young age due to an unfortunate accident. I fully understand your grief but to relate that to Beng Hock's death, which, unless I'm wrong, neither you nor I can right now be absolutely certain of its cause? What if every person who had suffered the same loss, start to tell their story? Let's not turn our sorrow into indiscriminate hatred.
I know you have just lost a friend in Beng Hock, and you are entitled to reminisce. I just wish you could do it more responsibly. Thank you and regards.

Yours sincerely,
Eddie.

P/S- Stay honest and keep up your good community work. God bless you. :)

Anonymous said...

2 weeks.

2 weeks and this thing will be done and dusted.

Teoh's family will be compensated and things will be back to normal again.

kftang said...

YB Hannah, your personal account of your uncle's passing away at a very young age of 29 reminds us that life is very precious and we must live life more meaningfully to realise a cause, a cause that will make our country a better, more fair and more just place to live!

We cry unashamedly for Beng Hock's mysterious death just as much as his fiancee and family members do.

May justice and truth be served so that Beng Hock's sudden demise will not be in vain. RIP.

Lawrence Bong said...

Dear Hannah,

I would solemnly agree that I'm one of those who never bothered about the politics. The death of Beng Hock only comes in after a few days when my friends talked about it. And I was so frustrated and angry at how they're handling this case.

I'm trully saddened by the fact that our government has been abusing their powers in a subtle way as to confuse the people.

And reading your blog has shown that, you who stand up for the people who are aware of the power-play, have to be really strong in facing all those words and mind games thrown at you and your team. I totally understand how it feels and how frustrated it could be when you can't do much about it because they've got the central power.

But I'm thankful that we're seeing some change. I trully wish that you and your team will stay strong. I will continuously support a fair and just government.

As how my friend put it, they've really gone overboard.

Sincerely,
Lawrence Bong
Subang Jaya

Anonymous said...

The pain of losing anybody under any circumstances is painful and in the case of Beng Hock it has to be the worst. Not knowing how but yet knowing that he was earlier in the hands of MACC, the agency that was sworn to protect Malaysian interest is frightening. Justice must not only prevail but must be seen to prevail.

3rd dimension said...

Dear Hannah Yeoh,
It is tougher than you have thought when you started in March 08, you will see more to come and you need to be stronger and stronger each day to go on.
May the force be with you!

Anonymous said...

TBH will be hailed as a political matyr one day when PR takes over because it would he who have given the swing to PR. most m'sians are fed up of BN's tactics. its so out of touch with the rakyat and yet they come up with stupid slogans like 1M'sia and Rakyat 1st. actions speaks louder than words and raising electricity cost aint actions that will help!

TBH death was tragic and could be avoided but that was to be his destiny, may he R.I.P.

and one day,i hope to see Hannah Yeoh as the Housing Minister and Tony Pua our Finance Minister, my 2 favourite politicians :)

This country will be run much better with you guys at the helm

Hari Seldon

Ching Tat said...

My deepest condolences to not only Beng Hock's family but whoever lost their loved one.

I fee very helpless sometimes seeing how those BN men politicking and exploit rakyat like us... It gone overboard not only this time but keep happening. We are prepared for the changes and Beng Hock did his part in the battle. He would be remembered forever in this whole process of change, not in that so-called 2 weeks go dust. His fight never will go vain, a sacrifice although is too much, but it won't be a full stop point for the change. Hope to see that the waves still pursuing to our goal.
Keep it on, Hannah! Many people stood behind you!

Anonymous said...

Dear YB Hannah,

I understand how you feel and I am ashamed, disgusted and angry at what had happened to the late, YBH. May he rest in peace and God bless his family members at this moment.

I believe that besides the good forces fighting the evil forces, God will intervene. What man cannot do, God can do. Have faith in God, the maker of heaven and earth, and mankind too !

The way we, the rakyat see it, we know the difference between black and white. We have come to a point of no return, we will have to fight the evil forces that is gripping this nation !

I am very sure that God is watching us and it is our duty as a father, mother, brother, sister, etc, and citizen to protect the future of our children and generation.

You all has pledged your support to your party and must fight the evil forces.

God will intervene and justice will prevail !

Perhaps, not now but in time to come.

God bless you and your family, your comrades and friends.

KETUANAN RAKYAT

Anonymous said...

To all malaysian who have not register as VOTER. I believe before you pen your complain or comments, makesure you are one of the VOTER.

You have to use all your rights as voter to vote for a change. A change to better government for our future. It might takes 20 years or more for the change and some of us could be not here to witness. It does not matter, at least we have done our responsible as mankind to get rid of all BN evils.

Don;t talk when you can't make the differences.

Hannah take care ..

Anonymous said...

Eddie, with regards to your post on July 23, 2009 11:48 AM, I for one do not find this blog entry 'irresponsible' in any way. Neither do I feel indiscriminate hatred after reading it.

Just my 2 cents... I'm sure we're on the same side on most other things! :)

Anonymous said...

Dear Moderator, thank you for adding my comment.

Regards,
Eddie.

Melissa said...

Hi Hannah,

I can't help but to write this. During Beng Hock's death, i was reminded of these verses...

"I have fought a good fight, i have finished the race, i have kept the faith" 2 Tim 4:7

"For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain" Phil 1:21

So, take heart, we are all with you, different calling but running the race together. ;)

Being a 31 yrs old political secretary to the PR's MP, my family worries for me too. God will provide and God will take care.

The Lord says He is Jehovah Nissi, our Lord the Banner. He will fight this battle for us and with us. Take heart... God bless.

Regards,
MelissaW

A Pinch Of Salt said...

YB Hannah,
Stay strong and know that He enables you. The very reason you are put where you are because He intended you to be there.Know that the Lord will keep you in His Wings always. Just like the heading of your blog " Hannah Yeoh - Righteousness exalts a nation" Stay focused, run a good race and fight a good fight! God bless! Know too that you're always in our prayers.

Anonymous said...

Dear YB Hannah Yeoh,
Be strong. We rakyat always looking forward the day that bn collapse. Keep on fighting! We need you YB.

Cheers

petluc said...

Hannah,
We have chosen to take The Road Less Travelled (title of my blog) on the journey for a Better Malaysia.

The journey is not easy but we keep at it; turning to GOD for strength and patience and to friends and comrades for support and the occasional ear to grumble and shoulder to cry

SOmetimes we come across really difficult period but Stay Strong.

That day at the Petaling District meeting; rigght accross me was the empty seat where TBH would have sat if he was there. (that was why I was really moody) I was thinking that it could have been any one of us PA's in particular but also ADUNs n MPs

Still, we need to go on as otherwise THEY would have achieved their objectives.

I remain motivated and guided by my school motto: TO strive, to seek, to find but not to yield!

Hang on there!

samson said...

Dear Hannah,

Please make it a practice to call your husband or you PAs every 3 hours, everyday, so that they know that you are safe and well. Should you be taken for questioning by anyone, inform them that you have to call your people every (*)hour to confirm your health. Failure to allow you to do so will immediately activate a plan whereby, a contigent of lawyers, supporters and such to storm and demand your release.

Even if they do not release you, at least there will not be any accidental deaths. Remember in the addage 'Failure to plan is worse than failure in itself'

Take care and keep up the good work!

taiping joo said...

There are just so many passengers in this fight for CHANGE. Being a passenger is easy. Some decided to be the navigator. It's more difficult with some responsibilities. However, being in the drivers' seat is what counts and with it the accountability.

To say we support you is merely identifying as passengers in your quest. The thought that there are many out there ever willing to change bus mid journey, shames the partnership.

So, we are truly proud of you and your team for taking on this important role at your young age. It's truly courageous. Now, go on and WIN this race. A new breed of drivers will follow on your glorious track.

God Bless.

denzook said...

if you really insist, you should propose to DAP to make teoh's death date as every year remembrance of such tragedy...

Anonymous said...

If you play with fire, expect to be burned. If you can't handle the heat, get out of the kitchen.
This is how real life is. Everybody has a dream, everybody has an ambition, everybody wants to change the world. Are you ready to pay the price? If you are going to start a fight, expect every little dirty trick in the book. Nothing is untouchable. Nothing is too low. Nothing is too far. Not even death. Still feel like saving Malaysia? Still think its worth it?
If so, then prepare to sacrifice. Nothing ever comes for free but you already know that.

shchoy said...

Thanks for sharing your story.

Thanks for taking the risk for us all.

Taukeleh said...

Dear Eddie,
The very first question we need to ask is, is there a possibility that TBH committed suicide? If YES, then we have to wait for the truth to be revealed. If NO, then, how did he die? I'm using deductive reasoning to believe TBH did not commit suicide. As a Malaysian, i love this country, and i hope to see the country to be governed with just and righteoussness. May God bless you and uphold you in living everyday.

Anonymous said...

Dear Hannah,
The road u and ur colleagues have chosen is narrow and is painful. It may be even more narrow at some turns and the pain may be unbearable; we'll learn to try to understand if some quit along the way.
BUT many of us are grateful and indebted to u and many of the bright and courageous young children of this land who give of yourself for the sake of this nation.
The persecutions will not stop, in fact it will intensify. AT the right turn, we will contributing effectively BUT above all else, we'll pray that God will sustain u the way He did Mandela and Rev. Martin Luther King. You are not alone the way we are made to feel alone. God bless u, your colleagues and your beloveds.
Coach

Anonymous said...

Hai,

Hannah

What u think about 1 Malaysia? For me its rubbish, there is no 1 malaysia if we use passport to travel to Sarawak especially we are Sabahan required passport to enter that country.